Even if things seem bleak, there’s hope to get your ex back.
10 mistakes you’re making that you must stop now if you want to get your ex back.
Are you depressed your lover left you? Have you thought of many ways to convince him/her to give you another chance, only to fail miserably?
If you want to get your ex back, you can’t sit around and wait forever. Eventually it will be too late. They’ll find someone else or completely fall out of love for you.
Let me tell you a little something about myself. I had a 4 year relationship with the love of my life. I screwed it up. She left me. I spent months trying to convince her to give me another chance…
…but did it work? No. I was a clueless moron that had no idea why the girl that loved me for so long would no longer even answer my calls. So I learned from my errors. And the next time I found myself in that situation, I got her back.
When you’re depressed from a break-up, you need to focus on why she’s not coming back to you.
It’s only natural to make irrational decisions when you’re depressed. Your head isn’t functioning like it should be. But if you want your lover back, you need to get your head straight NOW!
Time is of the essence so I’m going to help get you in the proper mindset.
So here’s what I’m going to do. I’m going to tell you straight up why your ex won’t even talk to you anymore…
… he/she is no longer attracted to you. Why are they no longer attracted to you? Because you’ve made all or some of the following 10 errors.
10 errors that verify their decision to leave you was justified
Let’s be honest here. You’re not going to get your ex back until you change your ways.
It’s time to step your game up and become the person your ex thought you were before sending your ass packing.
So let’s focus on what you can do to get your lover back and become happy again. But first you must know the 10 common errors people make. Avoid them at ALL costs.
Error #1: You think the nicer you are, the more attractive you will be
Plain and simple – your ex isn’t coming back to you because you, all of a sudden, become super nice to them.
Refrain from putting on some phony act. Men and women dislike boring relationships anyway. If you act overly nice, your lover will see no reason for wanting you back because they will find you to be too boring.
Nice is boring. No one likes boring.
Error #2: Being completely clueless
Your ex fell in love with you once, so there’s probably a chance he/she wants to work things out. The problem is there’s only a short period of time in which you can do this. Eventually it will be too late.
Chances are your ex is sending out signals, but you just don’t know how to interpret them.
Pay attention to how your ex interacts with you after the break-up.
Error #3: You become weak all of a sudden
I know it’s depressing when someone you really loved dumps you. We’ve all been there. But you can’t make it known that you are struggling to go on without them.
If your ex knows you’re barely even functioning with them, they will take advantage of that.
If they are under the impression you have successfully moved on with your life, they won’t feel so in control. This is how you gain their respect.
Once you’ve lost their respect, you’ve lost any hopes of them ever coming back to you.
Error #4: Not selling them on why you should still be together
So you use to have all kinds of fun hiking through the mountains or cooking dinner together?
Great. Now’s the time to remind your ex of the good times.
Just be careful. You don’t want to irritate them with constant reminders – even about the good times.
When you’re chatting, find time to occasionally mention reasons why you are perfect for each other. However….
…we’re human. We react on emotion. So you need to realize that logic doesn’t always get through to an ex. When you’re done reading these 10 errors, make sure you stick around for some important advice relating to this error.
Error #5: Assuming it’s all about wealth and looks
Do you really think your lover ditched you because you got fat or lost your job?
NO! They left you because they just don’t find you to be a suitable match anymore.
If they initially fell for you, it wasn’t all about your looks or bankroll. So don’t waste your time trying to become more physically attractive to get your ex back. It won’t work.
Error #6: Thinking gifts will get your ex back
It’s almost a natural reaction to think sending a bunch of nice gifts to your ex will win their heart back.
They won’t. In fact, your ex probably takes them and gives them to friends with a note that says “here’s a free gift from my desperate ex”.
Gifts don’t buy love. Instead, they buy restraining orders!
By showering your ex with gifts, all you’re doing is annoying them. This makes things worse. Stop and think before you act. And speaking of annoying your ex…..
Error #7: Constantly reminding your ex how much you love them
If you were unaware that showering your ex with gifts is annoying, you definitely don’t realize how irritating it can be to have an ex constantly tell you how much they love you.
I know how tempting it can be to text your ex “I love you”, but you should refrain from doing so.
The more annoying you are, the less likely your ex will come back to you. You might think reminding them how much you love them will work in your favor….
…but that’s because you’re not thinking straight. Your mind isn’t working properly when you’re depressed.
Your ex wants to hear you say “I love you” about as much as they want to hear you cry about how much you want them back.
Error #8: Not understanding what the opposite sex is attracted to
We all are attracted to different things. There’s something you should know…
…just because something appeals to you doesn’t mean it appeals to someone else. This is especially true when it comes to the opposite sex.
When you’re hanging out with members of the same sex, you can’t act the same around those of the opposite gender.
Error #9: Begging your ex to take you back
I’m just being honest with you here. Begging your ex to take you back will make them think you’re a loser.
It’s true. There’s nothing less attractive than a desperate person begging someone to come back to them.
Besides, do you really think you can beg your way into a relationship? No, no you can’t. And you know that. But again, you’re just not thinking straight.
Error #10: Thinking you can get your ex back on your own
If you’re reading this, chances are you have made more than 1 of the above errors. And if you’re being honest with yourself, you know I’m right.
What you’ve been doing isn’t working. You think you don’t need help, but then again….. why are you here?
You’re here because you know what you’ve been doing isn’t working. And you know you need someone to guide you.
Good for you. You want your ex back, so now you’re focused on taking action and accomplishing that. I commend you for it.
And guess what? I’m going to see to it that you get your ex back. That’s what I do. I’ve been in your situation many times before. It sucks. I’m no different than you, other than I know how to get back with an ex.
Now is the time to take action BEFORE it is too late…
YOU WANT SOME ADVICE?
Now that we’re through discussing ways you have probably screwed up, you need some advice on how to correct your errors. Remember when I told you attempting to sell your ex on logic is pointless?
I meant what I said, however, there is something you should know…
…you can still convince your ex to come back with words. You just need to learn how to speak to an ex while avoiding all of the above common errors.
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